What Women Want

Have you ever felt lonely? Maybe you have a circle of friends, a husband, a few kids, interesting work, perhaps even a ministry. But in a hubbub of activity, you still get that “lonesome feeling” that country music stars croon about. It happens to all of us at one time or another—because we’re human, because we’re women. What women want, what we really want and need, is somebody who knows all about us and loves us anyway. Somebody who accepts us--warts and all. A person or maybe two that we can connect with and talk to on a level deeper than news, weather, and sports.

Recently I got that lonesome feeling after a huge family Christmas celebration winded down. Our house had been literally bulging with people—three adult sons, one daughter-in-law, six grandkids, one girlfriend, two playful dachshunds, and a yellow lab. During jam-packed days between Christmas and New Year’s, we’d had mountain-top moments, tender moments, and a few moments of laugh-till-you-snort fun. I’d been blessed. But one evening soon after the family exodus, as I slipped between the sheets and turned up the electric blanket, that lonesome feeling hit me. Something was troubling me that I couldn’t talk about—not with my family anyway. After all they are mostly men and I didn’t think they’d understand. It involved one of my closest friends, a huge misunderstanding, a few hurtful words, lingering silence between us. I wondered if things would ever be right again. I decided to give her a call. She wasn’t at home. Or maybe she’d seen my number on caller ID and decided not to answer.

How can we women have a dozen things going great, and one thing that is not, keeps us awake at night? How can one relationship blunder cast a shadow over all our relationship blessings? Why do we mull it over and over until it becomes bigger than it has to be? I’m not sure what the answer is, but I do know what women want is smooth-sailing, warm-hearted relationships without storms. And I know that when we are tired, the enemy attacks and upside-down thoughts need turning right-side-up! That night, I looked toward my ceiling and said, “Lord, I need your peace and I need rest. I’m going to put this in your hands and go to sleep.” Almost immediately a verse from Hebrews came to my near-exhausted mind. The next day I located it in a translation that gives the full meaning of every word. I began to memorize them. “For God Himself has said, ‘I will not, in any way fail you, nor give you up, nor leave you without support. I will not, I will not, I will not in any degree leave you helpless, nor forsake, nor let you down, relax my hold on you, Assuredly not!’” (Heb. 13:5 Amp. Bible).

As the words found their place in my heart I decided, Now that’s what women want! It’s all we really need. One Friend--the Eternal Son of God—the Friend of Sinners—the One who never changes—no matter what!